why not take note of them here:
- My chest caves in as I am unable to hold myself up after I hear, for the first time since undergraduate, the word "intimidating" leave his mouth. i feel helpless.
- I am beginning to think that love is a decision. Love is a mutual commitment between the people involved to accept and respect some one for who they are, where they've come from, and where they are going*. From there I base my actions. My actions have consequences that result in feelings. A feeling is the residue of a decision.
*this statement is by no means a binding definition...although, for now it seems appropriate.
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Interesting. If love is a decision, how does it relate to attraction? Is attraction also a decision? Can you love someone (outside your family) to whom you are not attracted?
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hm. i found this quote while wandering around the internet...
ReplyDelete"We like someone because. We love someone although." -Henri De Montherlant
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the precursor to my "love is a decision" thought was: i know it is probably time to, as graciously and respectfully as possible, bow out when i have to start rationalizing why it is i spend time with the person/group.
what type of attraction are we talking about? hehe idk, though. I mean regardless the type of attraction (physical, mental, spiritual etc.)
ReplyDeletelove becomes a matter of mutual gain. You personally decide whether what you're "giving" is enough, proportionate to what the other is "giving" in return.idk.
Yes, I think you can definitely love some one outside of your family with who you are not attracted too. People like others based on how compatible they think the other is to themselves. Individuals don't necessarily love the other individuals that happen to be in their families...
When people (regardless the level or type of attraction felt)invariably piss/ annoy one another off it is always a question of whether or not you're going to put up with it and then later, if need be, forgive the person. i assume that people's actions are hardly ever unfounded...which leaves a lot of wiggle room for grace, sympathy, and understanding- which is where the decision to love some one comes in.
I am not sure if deciding to love some one (using my definition in the post) is a continuous or reoccurring state of mind... or a one time (i.e. wedding vows) decision from which every other decision is based off from. to open a whole new can of worms: When does love become a habit or matter of convenience? i don't want to ever love some one because i feel like i owe them something...gah. i digress.
thoughts?